Hi F, You post is really involved , really funny and very interesting I will do my best to answer. My first post on this site was re my different orgasmic experiences , I will cut and paste it here and that covers a lot of what you asked. I am a 45 year old woman who has had the same sexual partner for 26 years. In that time I have discovered that I can achieve 3 different types of sexual climaxes. I would like to get feedback from other women and men on their experiences as reading romance/ erotic literature as well as numerous contradictory female sexuality studies on climaxes , orgasms etc have left me somewhat confused. The first type of climax is what I will call a clitoral climax. I reach this through direct stimulation of the outer clitoris. The physical manifestation of this climax is intense pleasure, rhythmical muscle contractions of the entire vulva area including the anus and I usual vocalise through this climax with rhythmical ah of oh sounds. The second type of climax I have is what I will call a G spot climax. I have these when my partner inserts his fingers into my vagina and rubs the front internal wall of my vagina quite vigorously. I can reach a climax this way within seconds. The physical manifestations of this climax is intense pleasure, at times copious amounts of vaginal liquid expelling from my vagina, which is definitely not urine and I vocalize through this climax with a high mewling sound. The 3rd type of climax I will call a vaginal climax and this I can only achieve about 60%-70% of the time. I can best achieve this climax if my partner and I are in a missionary position with my legs over his shoulders and he is thrusting vigorously into me. The physical manifestation of this climax is intense pleasure, a slight loss of mental awareness , and I vocalize this with the clichéd shouting that you see on TV or movies. This climax I must say is the most satisfying of the 3 So that is my original post and covers a fair amount of what you wanted to know. I can only choose which orgasm I want to have by which method and area I attend to eg clitoral orgasm masturbate my clit, g-spot get hubby to finger fuck me, vaginal get hubby to do the nutcracker ( missionary legs over shoulder). I can't have 2 or 3 at the same time but can have 1 2 or 3 in the same session. I know that women generally find it easier to have a clitoral orgasm when their partner goes down on them but although I love it and get very turned on, as soon as he inserts his fingers I tend to have a g-spot orgasm which usurps the clit one and I lose focus in getting to the clit one if that makes sense. Mind you they all feel good but I really have to mentally focus and get lost in fantasy to have a clit orgasm and when I am with my partner I am just so into what he is doing it feels silly to say just keep quiet and let me focus. I have a rabbit and an egg type toy which I use to masturbate but no specific g spot toy. I just haven't been that motivated to try and achieve the other 2 types of O myself as I am really happy with the status quo. If I really want to go to town on myself I insert the rabbit in my vagina position the vibrating ears on my anus and use the egg on my clit... earthshattering! Funny re the watching SO and me going for it, I may be up for it as am a bit kinkier but he def is the conservative type so no dice....lol.