I am pregnant for the first time, and in reading up on healthy pregnancy exercises I keep coming accross how important kegel exercises are for pelvic floor muscle health. My problem is--I can't figure out how to contract my pelvic floor muscles and I'm worried that might mean I have really weak muscles or something. It's like trying to wiggle my ears! Whenever I try to "squeeze" or "lift" I just end up contracting my abs or thighs or butt. I've read "just use the same muscles you use to stop peeing"--as if holding your pee was a muscle contraction, but I can't figure out what that means, because when I start peeing I push down, and when I want to stop peeing I just relax, and the flow stops. I never feel an upwards "lift" or "pull" or "squeeze". Did anyone else have this problem when they first tried to learn how to do kegels? How can I find the correct muscles?