Hey guys! So, my husband and I are already legally married, but we're having the wedding in August because he is from Canada and we had to wait so that everyone had a chance to make it. While I like the idea of a big party with my friends and family, the idea of a wedding just makes me cringe. There's so much to plan, so much pressure, and to top it off, I'm immigrating after the wedding! What I'm worried most about is the ceremony. We already have a space in a redwood forest reserved, it's beautiful, but what about the vows? We aren't religious, so we're not going to use the prepackaged ones. My husband seems unperturbed by the idea of writing vows, but I am mortified!! I don't mind saying why I love my man in private, but in front of everybody? I'm not even a shy person, but I'm really dreading that part. If you're married, what was writing your vows like? A lot of other women supposedly look forward to this stuff, but I think I'm missing the wedding gene. Anyone have any advice for a more alternative wedding?