BG-RJ is so adorable! What a nice haircut! So, my two cents on the sleeping thing: societal "norms" are rarely normal. In my opinion, they are usually more like urban legend (unless you are RJ, which sounds like a dream!!). Babies are programed to need closeness to mama, and while some are much more easy going about transitioning to solo-sleeping, some are not. It's a survival instinct for them. I know it's funny to think about it in those terms, but if you think about it, they come out of the womb completely helpless and very used to YOU. In the caveman days, physical closeness meant they weren't going to get eaten by something AND they could guarantee thier own food supply. Babies have really changed very little since thoses primative times-despite our culture of promoting independence. Just because there is a baby monitor in the room doesn't mean their little brains tell them it's ok to be alone. I know this is a very "granola" response, but this really started to make sense to me after reading a book called "Our Babies, Ourselves" by Meredith Small. Very cool anthropological look at why babies are the way they are. With James, this kind of thing bothered the hell out of me..."why can't he just SLEEP so I can get something done??". And his sleep was SOOOO bad day and night I really thought I was loosing my mind by about 18 mos, when he actually started sleeping (but, by that point his issues were very specific-I know it usually happens much faster than that). So, short-term solutions: do what EVERYONE tells you to do while your expecting-sleep while baby sleeps. Dishes will be there later. At least once a day, let yourself doze off w/ them. or, while they are tiny, wear them. They will certainly sleep on YOU while you are moving. Lastly, try a swing, bouncer, etc.-something that can give some motion. This gave me the break I needed usually in 1 hour increments until James was about 6 mos old and stopped liking it. Joseph likes it well enough to spend a couple 1-hour stents in it during the morning hours. So, the dishes get done, a load of laundry happens and I get a shower. Anything else is icing on the cake that day. I know-not the magic response. But, I find that having realistic expectations (which are unique to each kid) helps me deal w/ the difficulty of baby sleep issues. I am in a much better frame of mind about it w/ Joseph than I was w/ James...and Joseph won't sleep at night unless he is ON TOP OF ME (not even the swing works then!) And-if all else fails-repeat after me "THIS, TOO, SHALL PASS!" Best words my MIL ever spoke to me. It DOES pass (although then I had another one and it started all over again ). Sorry for the novel-baby sleep issues hit close to home since I spent SOO long looking for answers w/ James. Where is Row?? I am sure she has some great wisdom on this!!