Help!! Bad Gag Reflex

Discussion in 'Female Sexuality' started by hornymomwithquestions, Aug 20, 2015.

  1. I have a problem... When I was younger (late teens and early 20s) I could DT, but after I had my children, I can no longer take all of my husband in my mouth. I love to give him oral sex, Lord knows he loves to go down on me...

    I just need help getting rid of my gag reflex...is it even possible?

     
  2. Happyhand65

    Happyhand65 Member

    Hi Horny-Questions,
    Nobody seems to be responding, so let me give it a try for you.
    I have a problem with trying to pin down your different statements.

    First, DT may mean deep throating your husband penis, meaning taking it all the way into your throat until it disappears completely in your mouth cavity except for his balls. Is that what you meant?

    Second, you say children, you had the first and then you could still do DT?
    And then you had the second one and then could or couldn’t you do DT?
    Or it was tweens and the gagging switch was flipped on instantly?
    Or was it gradually that you lost your DT abilities?

    Lastly, you ask for help against gag reflex, do you gag when you give him a regular BJ?
    Or you mean you gag when you try to take it into your throat?
    There are more subtle nuances to this, let's see your clarifications if you wish....
    The devil is in the details….

     
  3. I guess it is all in the details...yes, DT, as in Deep Throat, and I lost my ability to DT at 19 when I got pregnant with my first child. It was only worsened with the birth of my second child. It was like a switch flipped and I developed this super gag reflex... Yes I gag in a regular one also, I guess which is actually my main concern. My reflex is in the middle of my tongue.

     
  4. Happyhand65

    Happyhand65 Member

    Well, that simplifies the issue.
    I was thinking that over time and because of having babies and gaining weight perhaps your throat area, namely your neck muscles and fat had increased to the point of now being a little bit narrow for the girth of your husband’s cock. A possibility in my mind….

    I guess this is different, it the sensibility was in the back of your throat it could be overcome over time, but being in your tongue, the only possibility would be using some numbing spray or something, BUT I would caution you to get such a product in consultation with your doctor or throat specialist, do not follow anybody’s advice however well intended or “expert”.

     
  5. jcromp

    jcromp Member

    I know this post is old, but maybe you're still looking for advice? I used to have this problem too, although my gag reflex was a little further back, but not much. Be careful with numbing sprays like Chloroseptic as they can numb him too! Lol. Not harmful, per se, but not what you're going for. I got over this issue a few ways, but it will take some time. Weeks, maybe months.

    #1, let him know that you're trying to fix the problem, and he'll be more than happy to go along with anything you want to try.
    #2, It's very, very important that he NOT THRUST during a BJ until you get this under control and you want to give it a try. The gag reflex is as much mental as it is physical and if you're afraid that he may unexpectedly thrust into your mouth, your gag reflex will be more sensitive. That being said, when a man is close to orgasm, he may not be able to control thrusting, so have him let you know when he can't control it anymore and switch to hand job or intercourse. But make sure he tells you well in advance and understands that it is imperative that he not thrust at all. One thrust from him can set you back weeks in your "training".
    #3, figure out how deep you can take it without gagging or with minimal gagging and place your fist firmly around the shaft to stop it going in further and then move rather quickly. Quick movements are less likely to trigger the gag reflex. Then little by little take more of him into your mouth without stopping the rhythm, still moving quickly. This almost tricks yourself out of the reflex. Only try to go a little bit further down each session though. If you push too far and start gagging badly, you'll set yourself back by triggering the "mental" aspect of the reflex.
    #4, You'll need to "practice" at least a few times a week to keep the momentum going. If you wait too long in between, you'll lose ground.
    #5, This is the most important tip, by far and what got me to the point of being able to deep throat so far, that I can actually swallow a few inches and go all the way to the hilt and lick his balls while I'm down there and he's a good 7 inches long. I can also allow him to push my head down onto him and let him thrust as deeply and as quickly as he likes....learn to get totally turned on by giving blow jobs. Let him know that his groaning, moaning, and complimenting your skills will be encouraging to you. I'm sure he'll be happy to oblige :) For me, this is huge. The more turned on he is, the more turned on I get. Maybe read erotic stories about blowjobs or watch blowjob porn if you're not adverse to it. Get into a position that he can stimulate you while you do it, if that's not too distracting for you. I really think this was the biggest reason I was able to get over it. It turns me on so much now, that I've actually orgasmed a few times, just from going down on him with no other stimulation. At the very least, I get so turned on that I'm soaking wet and orgasm very quickly from any type of stimulation afterwords.

    I hope this was helpful, and good luck!!

     
  6. HereNow

    HereNow New Member

    Great reply, jcromp! I especially like that you highlighted the part about getting turned on by giving blow jobs. That is key, and once you learn to love doing it, it's almost addictive. ^^

    About the gagging, a little bit isn't too bad actually, though if it goes on too long it's distracting and possibly uncomfortable. My SO says he likes to hear me gag, which is such a sexy thing to say.

     
  7. HereNow

    HereNow New Member

    Great reply, jcromp! I especially like that you highlighted the part about getting turned on by giving blow jobs. That is key, and once you learn to love doing it, it's almost addictive. ^^

    About the gagging, a little bit isn't too bad actually, though if it goes on too long it's distracting and possibly uncomfortable. My SO says he likes to hear me gag, which is such a sexy thing to say.

     

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