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 Your Dreams
Are you convinced your dreams are trying to tell you something? If you think there's a message hidden in your dreams then Charmaine may be able to help you interpret it. She provides dream analysis for a number of newspapers and magazines and is now helping Aphrodite's readers understand their dreams. You can email Charmaine for help and read her weekly interpretations here.
Dream Left Me Heartbroken
May 21, 2013
Q. I just woke up from a very bad dream. I dreamt that my boyfriend married another girl. A girl that isn't familiar to me, or maybe to us. They were getting married & I saw their gifts with specific people's names on it. For example, I saw my boyfriend's uncle's name on his wedding gift. But in my dream my boyfriend didn't even love that girl, but they are still getting married. He even tried ways to divorce her! My dream never tells me why they were getting married in the first place... The dream left me with fear and heartache. My relationship between my boyfriend & I has always have been strong. We even planned to get engaged in three years' time. But I'm afraid that what I dreamt will turn out real. Is this dream telling me about my future? Please help me!
A. Short answer - probably not. It's sad how many people take their dreams literally and get scared or worried out of their minds. I get a lot of mail similar to yours. It's usually caused by anxiety. You say you have a good relationship with your guy but think hard if there's any area in which you feel insecure. Maybe he's not very expressive of his feelings. Maybe you would prefer to marry sooner. Whatever your hidden fears are, they're creeping into your dreams and showing you emotionally upsetting pictures. What made your dream worse are the precise details. No wonder it seemed so real. But I don't think these events are showing you the future. Focus on the relationship in the present and don't let fear take you over.
Sexy Dreams Of Ex-spouse
May 12, 2013
Q. I have been fighting with my son's father for about a year now. He often goes back and forth with how he treats me and how he acts in taking care of his son and being kind to me. Recently he has been so disrespectful, borderline psychotic, and threatening to take my child away from me. I am a spiritual person and instead of going back and forth with him, I just let him email and message me and don't respond. He insults me and says a lot of hurtful things that I know are not true. What is weird is I keep having recurring dreams that we reconcile with each other and even in a sexual manner, like we have sex, back together, and all is well. This is not my desire at all and I will soon be making moves to have him removed from our lives to the best of my ability with my lawyers. Please tell me what this means!
A. It's always difficult in your kind of position and it sounds like you've been trying to make the best of a bad situation which is to your credit. You've done exactly the right thing in not responding to his negativity. Nevertheless, it seems that you haven't managed to reach a positive solution. So, I can understand your puzzlement over this dream. Yet, to me, it's very clear. Your dream is a classic case of wish-fulfillment. You may not want to be back with your ex but a part of you must want things to be pleasanter between you. That's all it means. After all, you must've loved him once so in the dream, you're able to relive those happier times. I wish you luck in resolving everything.
Dreamworld Meets Reality
May 9, 2013
Q. Normally my dreams are faint and I rarely remember them, except last night I had a dream which was extremely visual and scared me a bit. I've been talking to a good friend now for two years and he lives about 400 miles away, we are meeting up in 30 days and yes I'm looking forward to it. Last night in my dream, it started off with me being welcomed into his home by his sister and her partner who I know quite well. Soon after, a bald man called Mark walked in and after speaking to my friend, I found out it was his dad! And he sent me a photo which was a spitting image of the man in my dream, only thing is I have never met him. I then woke up and fell asleep again to be watching my friend walk through roadworks towards me and there's no roadworks near his house. Finally I woke up and fell asleep again to
be lying on grass with him surrounded by both our families. Please help explain why my dreams are suddenly so clear and what they could
stand for.
A. Some people are natural recallers and remember their dreams clearly a lot of the time. Obviously you're not one of those so when you have a really vivid dream, it usually has a meaningful message. A lot of strange things can happen in dreams. I've heard many examples of it over the years. You saw a man you never met in a dream and I once had a client who saw a whole detailed room only to see it in reality a few weeks later. Mystery? Yes, some things can't be explained rationally but it's nothing to be scared of. If this dream is a prediction of the future, it's a pretty nice one!
Dreams Of An Old Flame
May 5, 2013
Q. I was wondering if anybody can tell me what my dream means. I keep dreaming about this one girl for more than two weeks now and we dated in real life four years ago. So I was wondering why I would have dreams where she comes to my work and we would make out or meet in town and hold hands and walk around. We are always happy in my dream but I haven't seen her in real life for four years now. What can it mean? Please help me. It's driving me nuts.
A. When you suddenly dream of someone out of nowhere, it usually means they're thinking of you or something important is happening in their life, either good or bad. Whenever this happens to me, I always check in with that person. But I gather you're not in touch with this girl anymore so it's more difficult. As you've been having this dream for two solid weeks, there's definitely a persistent message. Can you try to make contact with the girl just to ease your mind and satisfy your curiosity? If not, watch out for any other clues in your dream to see what could be the reason for the presence of a person from your past. It could be that the girl simply represents a longing for love, romance or younger days.
Love Lies Bleeding
April 30, 2013
Q. I had a dream that I fell in love with a guy and I was at his house. I could tell he loved me loads and that made me feel really good however, whenever I would look for him, I found it really difficult. Even though I knew his house, every time I would look for him, the house would just get bigger and the pathways would change. Sometimes I would come across another room and his sister would be there but every time I would see her, I would notice there was something sinister about the guy I was in love with and I felt something was being hidden from me. My mum was there with me and a girl I did not recognise and sometimes they would call out my name and I would keep trying to hide my love for the boy. Anyway, once I got to his room everything was good but then I noticed he was missing fingers and had deep cuts in his hands which started bleeding and I felt it was my fault as I had questioned him as to why he had lacerations on his hand and upon his explaining, they started to bleed. Once the bleeding had stopped, I kissed him to tell him I felt sorry and that's when I woke feeling really guilty. Please explain what this dream means as I hardly ever remember my dreams and I'm not in a relationship currently nor have I ever been.
A. This could be a dream of the future or on the other hand, wishful thinking on your part. Houses represent the person so if you were in the guy's house, you were trying to find him, both in the context of the dream and perhaps, in waking reality as well. Are you looking/hoping for a boyfriend? The tricky past is that in the dream, he's hard to find and you're not sure of him either. You don't want to commit to him. You even blame yourself for his injuries. That could indicate ambivalent attitudes about relationships. If that's true, the dream message is clear. Sort out your feelings so you can bring love into your life. If you don't usually remember your dreams, that makes this one even more important.
Headlines About Family Deaths
April 26, 2013
Q. I keep having the same dream every 4 to 6 months. I don't know why though. The dream is that my family and I wake up in a scary looking place. We are inside and all around are newspapers hanged up on the wall and each one has a different family member's name on it and how they are going to die. It really scares me because I don't like to think about how I die or how my family dies. Can you please tell me what it could mean?
A. I'm glad you told me your age because it does make a difference to how I interpret your dream. Children tend to have more scary dreams than adults because of their vivid imaginations and teenagers so also but because of emotional intensity. Had something happened recently to rock your sense of security about your family? If nothing specific has happened, then it must be coming from your fears for the future. When a dream keeps coming, it's definitely got a message so if you want it to stop, you need to find a way to stop being so afraid. Try to get hold of my book, `Teenagers and stress' where you can learn techniques to deal with the everyday worries of your age-group. I'm sure this dream is not actually predicting death. Everyone dies but there's no need to think about it especially at your young age. Have fun and enjoy being a teenager.
He Left Me!
April 22, 2013
Q. I hope you will be able to help me. Last night I had a very frightening dream. I just need to know if I have something to worry about. In my dream I could see our house and everything in it very clearly. My boyfriend came home with another woman and told me to pack my stuff and leave and that this other woman was moving in with him. I remember telling him that I don't have boxes to pack my stuff, so, as this other woman unpacked her stuff, they gave me her empty boxes to pack my stuff. My boyfriend asked me to remove everything that was mine and all the things that we shared together like the sheets on our bed and so forth. I remember packing all my things in our room then went on to the tv-room and started packing up there. My boyfriend then came into the room and I was crying and begging him to "please don't do this" I grabbed him and hugged him and told him I love him and don't want to leave. I remember telling him a few times, "please don't do this." I was terrified of losing him. But while I was holding him, he said he loves me too and started kissing me and we ended up making love in that room, the other woman then disappeared. When I woke up from this dream, I was shaking and crying and so scared of losing my boyfriend. I just curled up close to him and finally went back to sleep. Please help me!
A. No, you don't have anything to worry about. I'm sure that this dream is a product of some sort of insecurity in yourself. It's asking you to examine your feelings for this guy and find out if you have any reason to doubt him. My feeling is that it's coming from you. Our dreams tend to bring out our feelings, not other peoples. What's particularly interesting about your dream is that it poses a dilemma
and then solves it! Your boyfriend obviously chooses you in the dream and the other woman disappeared. So, there's your answer.
Dreams Of An Affair
April 16, 2013
Q. I wanted to know if you could help me describe my dream. I had a dream in which my boyfriend tells me before I go to work that he has another woman. And that he is having a relationship with her but that there's nothing to worry about because he will always be with me. Then I get mad but answered that if he has another woman I should have another man too. He gets mad and he says that there's no need for that, that his other woman doesn't mean anything to him. And that he doesn't want another man in my life. I get out of the car to go to work ending the dream saying that if he does not leave that woman then I would have to find someone for myself too! I really hope that you could help me please!
A. I get a lot of letters about infidelity but as I always say, these dreams shouldn't be taken literally because they, more often than not, are only a reflection of the dreamer's fears or insecurities. Have you got any reason to feel this way? Interesting that he said he'd never leave you and the other woman means nothing to him. It's almost as if your dream was scaring you and reassuring you at the same time. Are you a strong-willed girl? I had to laugh at you saying you would get another man. Not what I would recommend. Two wrongs don't make a right. I really don't think you have anything to worry about but if unsure or the dream persists, talk to your boyfriend.
Dreams That Foretell The Future
April 8, 2013
Q. My mother and grandmother have had some psychic or medium abilities and many times they can see something or they dream of something and it will happen fairly quickly. My mother has proven to me many times that she has these abilities. My grandmother for example, has had this dream where someone had a very bad car accident in a black car. That's all she indicated, no more, no less. Needless to say a cousin of mine wrapped a black mustang around a pole 2 states away, and my uncle (her brother) totaled a black SUV less than a week of owning it. My grandmother recently had a dream that her deceased mother was holding her and telling her how she missed her and said; "Don't worry, I will be coming for you soon. You and Kaela." Kaela is my younger cousin (about 23) and my grandmother has had many health issues and has been on dialysis for over a year now. What do these dreams mean? Could they hold truth to them?
A. I hope I can offer you some insight too! I agree with you entirely that a lot of things are possible which we would find hard to believe. I could tell you many, many examples of dreams that have foretold the future such as the examples you gave of your grandmother's. I myself have experienced it. Those of us who have very powerful dreams are natural recallers who have an investment in what our dreams tell us. Everyone is psychic but we have to choose to tune into this ability. As to the dream your grandmother had, don't take it too literally. In the dream-world, time is not linear so when her mother said "soon," that could be another 30 years! It was actually a reassuring dream. I'm sure there was some truth in them. Keep believing.
I Met The Man From My Dream
April 2, 2013
Q. I have been having a recurring dream since 2005. It is always of a man I've never met. The man is standing at a distance and nothing else is happening except me looking at him. I can see the outline of a figure, his face and nothing else. The first time I dreamt of him I was already in a relationship so I shrugged it off. As the years have gone by, in my dream I keep getting closer to him and he becomes more and more vivid. The last time I had the dream I could see his eyes and smile. He was also extending his hand to me. I can never touch him in my dreams but I am also not trying to and I don't try to walk any closer. It seems that each time I dream of him, he shifts forward. Whenever I wake up from the dreams, I feel calm and have inner peace. I can feel the warmth off his smile, it's so realistic. I never wish for the dream, it simply happens and I forget about it later. The most interesting part about my story is that I've finally met the man standing in my dream. I moved clear across the country to an unknown location 6 months ago. This guy and I tried a relationship and it failed. I know I barely know him and I can't say I love him because of that reason. What's odd to me is that it physically hurt to be apart from him. Whenever we were apart, we argued. Both of us have stated that we feel drawn to each other. We also both know that neither of us are emotionally ready for a relationship. We are also not ready to settle down either. At this point, I'm not certain we can be friends even though we both really care about the other. I just want to understand my dream. Whenever I was with or talking to him, I had deja vu. Where ever we went, what he said, what he did or was going to do - gave me deja vu. My deja vu always was about him. Remember I live in an unknown location and I still barely know him.
A. These sorts of things really do happen. If you've had precognitive dreams, you would know that all kinds of inexplicable things are possible in the world of dreams. When we dream of a stranger, it often is someone we might meet in the future. In dreams, there is no time or space. As the dreams got clearer, he really was physically moving closer. Your inability to form a relationship when you did meet almost sounds like karma. Many awkward or difficult relationships we have can be traced back to a past life with that person if you believe in reincarnation. The deja vu part and the way you feel when apart would attest to that explanation. Regardless of that, you are wise to know that you are not ready to commit to someone. It would be good to remain friends but let that develop naturally. Don't try to analyse the dream logically. It is what it is. Dreams are so interesting because they're so mysterious. There's no special message with yours - they just were a precursor to this man entering your life and now that's happened, you'll dream about other things!
Haircut Nightmare
March 25, 2013
Q. This dream was odd and it happened right before my morning alarm rang. Can't tell you where I was because I have no clue. All I can remember is that I was apparently going for a haircut and when I looked at myself in the mirror, my hair was all frizzy, dry and ugly and the left side was completely short up to my earlobe. I had the look of panic and shock in my face, then my alarm rang. It was really scary. I currently have medium length curly hair.
A. We have different types of dreams at different times of the night. Amazing, isn't it? The ones that happen just before we wake up are usually the ones we remember best. We bring the dream back with us to waking reality, so to speak. This dream says that you have an issue with your appearance. Are you insecure generally? I don't think it's specifically about your hair. Ask yourself how you feel about your physical looks. If you're too vain or too self-critical, try to work on it so these scary dreams don't happen again.
Visit From Deceased Aunt
March 18, 2013
Q. Shorty after my auntie died I had a dream that she came to me and told me to come with her (she had passed in my dream). I went with her where she took me to the conservatory in my house, she opened the door and took my hand! She then told me to look at the sky... it opened up and started showing bright colours of red, pink, yellow and green! I then asked if she could show my sister. She replied that she didn't have enough energy left in her. It was such a moving dream... one I will never forget!
A. This is indeed a beautiful dream, one to cherish so I hope you don't ever forget it. It's a very special connection. Deceased loved ones come to us in dreams for many different reasons - to reassure us, comfort us, bring messages, offer us insights and so on. My assessment of your dream is your aunt wanted to show you `the other side' and how glorious it is with many bright colours. This may not be a literal picture but symbolic of your aunt perhaps telling
you she's in a good place and for you not to worry. When you asked her to show your sister, she said she'd run out of energy which tells me that spirits can only stay with us for limited periods. Just be grateful for the gift your aunt gave you.
Strange House
March 10, 2013
Q. Over the last few months or so I keep having dreams that people are trying to attack me in a house. The house is usually my sister's or my mother's house. I do not live with either of them but have done in the past. People are trying to get to me in the dream and I can see them outside trying to get in, sometimes I’m trying to protect others from getting hurt too. I’m also having more and more dreams where I’m trying to find a toilet where I can urinate but they are either dirty, filled with faeces or are all open plan and people can see me sitting on the toilet. I’m constantly scanning the room trying to find a decent toilet to use. I’m also having a recurring dream where my boyfriend (of 3 years) is reunited with his daughter that he hasn’t seen for 5 years due to a fall out with the mother. The mother is always nice to me in the dream upon meeting her and seems happy for things to resume as if nothing ever happened. It always seems that I'm the only one approaching her and asking for him to regain access.
A. There are two parts to your dreams but they come from the same basis. In dreams, a house is you so why do you think you're under attack in your waking life? Are you usually the protector of the family? Searching for a toilet and not being able to find a clean one has to do with a situation in your life that is `revolting' to you and you desperately seek a solution.
Finally, again, in the final set of dreams, you are managing a family issue. Recurring dreams always have an urgent message. It seems obvious what the underlying theme with yours. You put yourself out too much for others, take too much responsibility and are too protective. These are all fine traits but not in excess. Based on the private details you sent me as well, I'd say you're uncomfortable in your current arrangement so take heed of these dreams and make the necessary changes.
Dreams of "It"
March 4, 2013
Q. Can you please help me interpret my dream? I have this dream every time I have an argument with my girlfriend of 5 years, and last night it happened again. I dream that there is someone brushing against me and I start getting goose bumps, but only on the one half of my body, the side I feel this movement. Then just as if the person or being had just walked past me and then the next thing you know is that "IT" is sitting on top of my chest and I can't sit up, I can't scream. I'm helpless. Then I wake up, but last night took a strange twist. I got up after it happened went to the bathroom with a cigarette and I actually felt it brushing past me again, but I am totally sure I was 100% awake and it gave me the goose bumps on the other side of my body! What could it mean, please can you help me? Could it mean that I need to get something off my chest or what? But what could it be that I need to get off my chest?
A. The "it" could be a spirit. There's no need to be frightened as such occurrences are more common than we know. People see spirits sitting on their beds in the middle of the night, for instance. Even during the day, there are often reports of the sensation of being touched/brushed up against. At night, everything is exaggerated and it's hard to tell if what you're experiencing is in fact a dream or actually happening. If the entity sat on your chest and you couldn't breathe, it would definitely be scary but it might just have wanted to make contact! I don't think it had any special meaning about your chest as such. Then it followed you into the toilet when you weren't sleeping which is what makes me think none of this was a dream. One point I need to mention is that you're having this experience always after a fight with your girlfriend is not a coincidence. Maybe this spirit is telling you to stop quarrelling!
Baby Boy Dreams
February 25, 2013
Q. I had a dream that me and my younger sister (who is actually pregnant) were pregnant. She gave birth to a girl. Then I went into labor but would not deliver until my husband arrived so I walked around the hospital until he found me and told him to take me back to my room which was our address number but it was too late so I went into an empty room and gave birth standing up to a boy and took him into the hallway to get help from a nurse. I don’t want a kid so I don’t know what this dream means.
A. Pregnancy in a dream can mean other things such as a project, business venture or fertility in the financial arena. It doesn't mean you will actually be having a baby someday and if you say you don't want one, there's no reason to think differently because of this dream. The whole birthing experience in your dream sounds bizarre, unlikely to be based on waking reality at any rate. Another thought I had was that you might be engaging with your sister's pregnancy. Are you two very close? It will be interesting to see if she really does have a girl. Either way, there's nothing to be concerned about in this dream.
Gay Friend
February 20, 2013
Q. I keep having dreams about my friend, that we are having sex in his bed and his dad walks in and starts talking to us and he says, "Thank god, I was starting to think Steve was gay. I'm glad, really excited."
A. Have you wondered yourself if this friend is gay? Sounds like you are just friends but perhaps you want more and that would explain this dream. It would be what we call "wish-fulfilment." If this isn't the case, then maybe your subconscious is telling you that this friend really is gay and needs your support. You could feel this out with some well-placed questions. I'm not sure what the last sentence means, if his dad said it. I can understand his father's feelings and that may be part of the problem. If you've had the dream a few times, try to follow its message so it won't keep bothering you.
Demonic Voice
February 11, 2013
Q. I really need to know what this dream is about. This girl in the dream was my friend and I was her only friend in the world. She said she felt safe and secure while she was with me, and she always wanted to be with me. She then told me how "pathetic and idiotic humans are" and I agreed sarcastically. It was there her voice changed to a demonic voice; she grabbed a hold of me, and tried sucking me into her mouth. I then noticed she was trying to steal my soul. I was able to fight her and get away and wake up soon after, however, I felt extremely exhausted and felt as though I was frozen.
A. I'd like to suggest that the girl in the dream is actually you. Characters in our dreams are often facets of ourselves. You are indeed your own best friend and therefore, you would feel safe and secure. Do you agree that humans are stupid in waking life? If so, your `friend' was simply expressing your own opinion. It seems a harsh judgment and if you truly believe it, ask yourself why. What has happened in your life to make you feel that way? Then your friend turned nasty. The bit about her trying to suck your soul out of you is particularly interesting because it indicates a message - if you are too cynical about life, you'll lost your soul. Take heed.
Losing a Baby
February 7, 2013
Q. I keep having the same dream about my baby girl who died at three days old after being born at 23 weeks. In my dream, she is alive and about 8 months old and has breathing apparatus on her face to give her oxygen. What does this mean? I have this dream about 3 times a month.
A. So sorry you lost your baby. I'm afraid your dream is a classic case of wish fulfilment. It shows your child being cared for and surviving which unfortunately didn't happen. Your subconscious mind wants it so much to be true it keeps bringing this image over and over to your dream-life. Do you think you grieved properly after your baby died? I think you need to work through a full bereavement process, or your dream will continue to recur. You might enjoy seeing your baby so regularly but it's stopping you from having closure and letting her go. Of course you'll never forget her but you have a right to renewed happiness too.
Dreaming of Reconciliation
January 29, 2013
Q. I need help with a dream I had I felt like it was telling me something. My husband left me a month and a half ago, he said because we would fight a lot and that he couldn't live like this and he didn't want our kids to see that. I've been dreaming about him lately and in my dreams, he comes back, in another dream, he tries to come back but I'm already his ex-partner. What does this dream mean?
A. You are still suffering from grief caused by the loss of your marriage. At times of extreme emotional stress, our dreams tend to be more vivid and intense. Your dream spells the confusion you're obviously going through. He's back, he's not back. I don't believe this is a foretelling dream, in other words, showing the future. The best thing you can do is decide if you want to work on your marriage and improve your relationship. If you do, have a sit-down with your husband and see how he feels. Find out why you fought so much and work out a plan for a better future. Don't worry about your dreams in the meantime. They're just processing your churning emotions.
In The Bleachers
January 8, 2013
Q. I had a dream last night that I was walking in a bleacher stand (like the one you would see at a school football field) with an ex-boyfriend of mine and in the bleachers just a few rows up from me was my ex husband. I was smiling, and laughing and I remember feeling so pretty. The wind was blowing and I could feel the breeze blowing through my hair, it felt so nice. Well, sitting to the side of me was this lady, who I didn’t know. She held my hand and told me that I was going to experience exciting things from jumping from cliffs to exploring great things. I looked at her and said, "will I be happy?" And she said, "hold my hand," then I woke up. I’m not sure if it means anything. But it felt so real and I could feel the breeze in my hair and I remember thinking this feels so good.
I have been going through a lot of emotional and relationship problems. This year has been the worst year of my life.
A. The emotional content of a dream is the most important aspect, much more so than the details. For example, if you were happily playing with a tame lion as opposed to being chased by a wild lion in terror. So, the fact that you were so light-hearted in your dream bodes well for any message it might contain. Dreams that feel very real tend to be more significant as well. The lady represents your own inner wise woman so do take note of what she said to you. She could also be one of your spirit guides speaking to you through your dream. Either way, her prediction was very positive so give thanks and accept the gift. I don't know why your exes appeared but it depends on what your relations are like with them. If good, their appearance adds to the general positivity of your dream.
Driving Me Crazy
November 5, 2012
Q. I had a dream that I and my husband were testing his car out down the street and I was watching him drive across the street and he turned around. On his way back he hit the gas and all of a sudden he was flying down the road and the weather changed to ice and snow. He flipped the car and was thrown from his car. The car was white but his car at that time was red; his new car is white. He ended up underneath the car and I was crying and screaming. I sat in the ground and rested his head on my lap and when I lifted his head, blood was pouring out the back of his head. He told me that he was so cold. And I woke up screaming and crying.
A. I'm very sorry to have to tell you that this dream is definitely worrying. The omens of red, blood and cold are all negative. It could be a direct warning about a car accident in which case, ask your husband to be extra careful driving at present. There's also another possibility, however. Cars in dreams represent a person's life. If it's speeding, you're rushing about too much, or you can be stalled, stuck in traffic, unable to stop etc. You can clearly see the analogies. In your dream, your husband was speeding and it ended in disaster. So, the message might be the need to slow down, maybe not in the car but other areas of his life. Take this dream seriously, talk to your husband and decide between you what it most likely means, do something about it to ward off any potential trouble.
Awful Dreams About My Son
September 18, 2012
Q. I'm emailing because in the past week I have had 2 terrible nightmares about my 6 year old son, Ayden. In the first dream, my husband of 6 years sexually assaults Ayden. Ayden doesn't seem bothered by it. I don't confront my husband. But, I can't make up my mind whether to stay with my husband or to leave him. The dream ends. As far as that goes, Dan and I had a stressful year. He had an affair and we stayed together. Also, I don't believe for one minute that he would ever do such a thing to our child.
Now, here's the most upsetting one from last night. My husband, I, and our 2 children Ayden and Cassidy started going to a new church. There was some sort of function and I, by myself, went to look for Ayden afterwards. I went from classroom to classroom looking at all the children and teachers, just sobbing uncontrollably. I broke down in the hallway and the people were just looking at me saying how sorry they felt for me. I got up and went outside. I know something bad happened because now 3 days had passed. I get out to the road and a faceless, nameless person walks up to me with a sealed baggy. It has my son's grey thermal pajamas in it. Only they're all bloody. I knew he had been murdered and started screaming. Then I woke up.
I almost didn't let him go to school today. But, he just started kindergarden this year and today is picture day.
On another note, The most important thing in my life is my family. I had 2 girls when I was young who were taken from me. That haunts me every single day of my life. Now, Ayden and Cassidy are my life. I'll do anything to keep my family together.
Anyhow, if you could tell me your take on these dreams, I would appreciate it so much. If they continue, I may go to the shrink.
A. First of all, nightmares always represent something you fear in waking life. When they recur, it means you're not taking any notice and trying to change. As a mother, the thought of harm coming to your child would be the ultimate nightmare but this type of dream doesn't mean bad things will really happen. It has more to do with your anxiety over the safety of your child. Your husband abusing your child is actually him abusing you by being unfaithful. The stress of that is reflected in these dreams.
All that I've said so far applies equally to the second dream you describe. Your fears are understandable if you have lost children in the past but please try to trust that you are safe and your children are safe. Then the nightmares will stop.
Too Many Men In My Dreams!
June 7, 2012
Q. Ok, so I've been seeing two guys for about 6 months now. I've been having a sexual relationship with one of them, and he knows of the other. However I often have sex dreams of the other, he is a virgin for religious reasons, and he doesn't know I'm seeing someone else sexually. I always sort of thought the dream was just wishful thinking. Now I'm having dreams of the guy I'm seeing sexually. We were in bed together and his friend walked in, and said; "Why don't you let me try out your little fantasy?" while looking at me. When the guy I'm seeing looked me straight into the eyes and said; "No, I love her." Now I'm very confused. I don't want to take this too literally but it has to mean something, right?
A. Yes, it does. I think it reflects your real-life dilemma. Are you dating two guys simply to be able to have sex? Which one of them is the one you really love? Your dream tells me you are confused about these matters. You shouldn't take dreams too literally but sometimes, the message is very clear and we need to take heed. You obviously want to have sex with the other guy and yes, there is wishful thinking in the dream. But now, this new dream is bringing in a new dimension. It's telling you that your guy loves you and doesn't just want sex from you. So, you've got some thinking to do - if you're just using him, maybe it's time to cut him loose. Think about how you
feel about each guy and make some difficult decisions.
Demonic Dreams
April 10, 2012
Q. In the dream, I was living in the current house I am now. The people who I was with were, my mum, myself and my little nephew. However my mum is in another state at the moment. But in my dream I was in my room, I walked out of my room crying, yelling "leave me alone" and in response, I heard a demonic voice yelling "No" back at me every time I told him to leave me alone. The demonic voice came from my closet, I know this because I remember seeing in my dreams me facing towards the closet as I was walking out of my room. Also, in my dream I have seen various of animals in my dream as well: birds and a possessed white rabbit. Also in my dream my mom told me that my family member (whom I stay with) should be prepared about what's going to happen next. I've seen some scary things happening. The house seemed to be haunted by the demon that's following me. I was yelling at the demonic voice to leave me alone the whole time. I can't remember everything from my dream, but these were the main things that worried me.
A. The devil is a common figure in nightmares as he's a standard evil icon in our culture. Sometimes, it's no more than that. Your dream though was very specific. It's not relevant that your mum is not actually around as dream reality has its own logic. What matters is that it was your house and you were surrounded by family. Demons in the closet are a favorite image of horror movies so either you have seen this and it translated into your dream or the demon represents a fear you actually have. Decide which one of these it is and you'll then have the message of the dream. Animals are always good to dream of so no problem there. From everything you've said, I think you are `haunted' by something in your life that's represented by the voice. It could be a job, a person, a boss or a situation. Try to identify it before you have another nightmare.
Too Scared To Go Back To Sleep
April 2, 2012
Q. For all my life I have had bad dreams, I'm not sure why. They have never bothered me too much and I have never enquired about them before now. Last night I had a nightmare that actually woke me up and I was too scared to go back to sleep, that I stayed up from 3am. I had work at 7am so it wasn't too bad. I remember I was in my bathroom doing something, and there was a short Indian woman and a little girl in there. The woman was smoking and was giving the cigarette to the little girl as well. She wasn't passing it to her hand but putting it in her mouth. I left the bathroom and went into my mum's room and told her. We looked the women up on the internet and found she was a murderess, she had killed her daughter (who looked about 20 odd in the photo) some time ago. Me and my mum spoke saying we should get her out of the living room, where she was now, and call the police. Before we decided, the little girl was standing at the bedroom door and was talking to us and then I saw the woman standing behind the girl. I could see her just about because she was the exact same height as her and was standing behind her as if hiding. I went to get the little girl and as I stood up, I saw the woman was writing something on the girl's back (I don't know what) so I went to grab the woman and I woke up at that very moment. My eyes didn't open, but I just wasn't dreaming anymore, I could hear myself breathing. Also throughout the dream my lip was bleeding really badly and I was holding it with tissue throughout. I'm not one to worry about these things usually. But I was so scared until I left my house. Does any of this mean anything?
A. Most dreams have meaning and some of it is hard to decipher. Your dream sounds very disturbing and I'll try to explain what it might be wanting to tell you. Before I do that, I need to mention the fact that you have bad dreams all the time. That's not a good sign, usually indicates fear of some kind in waking life. You need to ask yourself what it might be and try to deal with it. As to this specific dream, who does the Indian woman represent? She's only harming the child indirectly by making her smoke but she might be the source of the fear I was talking about before. If you can identify who she is, you will come closer to figuring out this mystery. The little girl might very well be you and you want to rescue and protect her from this murderess. Can you see how it all ties in now? The dream is representative of something you're scared of. The blood coming from your lip is another sign that there's a dark force to be dealt with - could be your job, a relationship, a health issue, or an event from your past. Although it might not be crystal clear, I've given you the bones of the solution. Try to fill in the rest.
Spiders
March 20, 2012
Q. I had a dream a couple of days back. In that dream, my girlfriend who lives in Canada was holding a spider with her teeth or lip, later the spider fell down. Could you please interpret the meaning of this dream for me? P.S. I live in Japan, and this Canadian girlfriend came to visit me about two weeks back. She left Japan 12 days ago.
A. If we take the usual meaning for spiders in a dream, they're said to represent money. If the spider was right in this girl's mouth, then money is very close. to her. But then she drops it! The meaning's very clear, isn't it? Do you know anything about this girl's financial situation? Did she do anything risky during her visit with you such as spending too much money or losing money at gambling? Anyway, you were only the observer in this dream so it doesn't directly involve you. If you know something to do with her finances that could be helped by the information in this dream then by all means tell her; otherwise, leave it alone and keep the dream to yourself.
Gold Bracelet
February 28, 2012
Q. I had 2 dreams last night. In the first one, I saw that I am in a crowded place and I have a gold bracelet. A woman is holding onto me from my back shoulders and she is giving me a kiss on my cheek. The second dream that I had, I saw that I am running in the road at a dark time. I hope you can explain this to me, please.
A. The first dream is actually very positive so nothing to worry about there. You have a gold bracelet which of course, stands for quality and wealth. Then, a show of affection from the woman is about being loved. They might seem like random episodes which they basically are but the overall message is good. The second dream is a little less straightforward. Darkness is never great in a dream. It can represent negative emotions, a dangerous situation or something you're grappling with in waking life. The fact that you're running suggests that you're trying to get away from one of the dark things I've suggested. Decide which one it is and try to fix it.
He's Back With His Ex!
February 14, 2012
Q. I keep having this dream that my husband is going to leave me for his ex and I don't know why I also keep dreaming of my teeth falling out. My best friend died a year ago and I dream of her. In the dream, she told me something was wrong with my leg and that I was going to die in three years. I remember telling her that I didn't want to die yet because I wanted to see my children grow up so then she told me to go see a doctor. Can you please tell me why I'm having these dreams?
A. The dream about your husband being unfaithful is a classic anxiety dream and is not to be taken literally. There is however a link between the next two sections. Teeth-falling-out is in fact a warning about poor health. Then your friend appeared in a dream to warn you as well. This can't be a coincidence. It may not have anything to do with your teeth or your leg but I do suggest you have a check-up. It's always best to be sure. Don't worry unnecessarily. It might just be a general warning that you need to take better care of yourself.
Can't Let Go
January 31, 2012
Q. I had a dream last night that I got an email from my ex boyfriend telling me that I'm very important to him, those were his exact words to me in my dream. It has been 6 months since we broke up and I'm having trouble moving on, I still cry every day over him. He is truly the love of my life. I know he hasn't dated anyone since the break up; he's just throwing himself into his work. The break up was my fault because I did some things I'm not proud of and Jamie is having trouble dealing with it (I'm a hoarder). Thank you again for reading my email.
A. Your dream may very well be wishful thinking. As you still love this guy, your dream is expressing the wish that he feels the same. It's dangerous to take dream messages too literally but in this case, it may very well be the truth. Are you still in touch with him? If you acknowledge that the break-up was your fault, can't you make a commitment to change and try to get him back? We're all allowed to make mistakes but if we're truly sorry, we should be allowed a second chance. If you feel there's no chance of reconciling, best to move on by letting go of the past, including your failings. But if the dream is trying to alert you to a possibility for a future with this guy, then take note and give it a go.
Mom Dying
January 17, 2012
Q. I'm not sure if you will answer but I hope you will. I have recently had a dream that my mum passed away. It was weird because we were having a family party and the next morning she was gone. I didn't realize this until I tried to call her and my brother and sister just stayed quiet. I then woke up as if I was asleep and a girl that is sort of my friend was saying she had a baby and was happy and what she named him and I remembered my mother started to cry. We walked out of the room and returned shortly and on my wall, my mother wrote to me saying everything will be fine and to do all that I want to dream big and do. She said "I love you," on the wall. I didn't understand in my dream and I woke up crying with tears running down my face. I hope this doesn't mean anything bad because I would never want anything to happen to my mum.
A. I'm not sure why you're interpreting something negative in this dream. Death rarely means that literally in dreams. It's more about change and the ending of a period. Does this apply to your mum's life at present? Have there been any particular family problems recently? Your siblings appear in the dream - perhaps they know something you don't? You could ask them. Being aware of waking up in a dream means you are dreaming lucidly, that is, you know you're dreaming. Your mother appeared again after this and you got happy news about your friend so that pretty much cancels any negative meaning. The best part is all the loving messages from your mum. You woke up crying because of the emotion of the dream. You really have nothing to worry about.
Marrying An Older Guy
January 3, 2012
Q. A couple days ago, I had a dream that I was getting married to this man. Not only have I never had a boyfriend but I am only 15. I was so confused that, all my friends and family were at my "wedding" and the weirdest part about this dream was that I did not know who this man was and he was much older than me, maybe late 40's. I was crying in my dream, begging my mum to cancel my wedding. I kept on telling everyone that I did not know who this man was I was supposed to marry and everyone just looked at me like I was crazy and told me I was crazy and that I have known him for years. I woke up the first time this dream happened which was last week but last night I had the same kind of dream that I was marrying this man I didn't know!!! I'm not sure if it was the same or a different man but in this dream, the wedding was happening in a couple hours and my friends and family were getting ready for it. I was once again crying because I thought I was too young and that I didn't know who this man was. I was confiding to my mum and she told me she could stop the wedding and then I was so relieved! I have never had a recurring dream in my life before!! What does all this mean!?!?
A. Even at 15, a girl's mind can be preoccupied with thoughts of a future wedding, consciously or unconsciously. Maybe this dream is simply reflecting that. However, it could just as easily not be about a wedding at all. Recurring dreams have urgent messages but as always, the events that you see may be just symbolic. What I think this dream means is that you're being forced to do something in your waking life. It could be an uncomfortable situation at school, at home or within your family. The dream is probably recurring because there's a lot of emotional intensity around it. This tells me that you're very anxious about whatever's happening. If you could resolve the problem, the dreams will stop. It might be simply a matter of being honest about how you feel.
Man Of My Dreams In My Dreams
December 7, 2011
Q. I keep having these dreams of the same man. I have never met him or seen him ever in my life, only in my dreams. They are all different but he is always there. In my dreams, he is beautiful. He looks heaven sent. We have made love and spend every moment together. When I'm awake, I wish to sleep just so I can see him. I've never felt so
happy. I can't help but wonder who he is. The last dream I had of him, I finally asked for his name and he said Zak. It's been a week now and he hasn't come back. I feel so sad. Could I have fallen in love with someone of my dreams? Will I ever meet him? Will this wondering who he is ever be resolved?
A. In something called Dream Incubation, you can create a dream lover and meet him in your dreams anytime. Without consciously deciding to do this, it seems to be precisely what you've achieved. Could it be answering the longing of your heart? If you wish something strongly enough, you can make it happen. Have you been lonely? Have you wished for a boyfriend? It's great that he's appeared in your dreams but I'd rather see you with a real man. Be careful you don't mistake fantasy for reality. It's important that you stay grounded in your waking life even though your dreamlife might seem more attractive at present. Don't be sad or fret about all this. It is possible that this is a real man that you will in fact meet, especially as he offered you a name but don't wait for it. People who believe in reincarnation would suggest that you knew this guy in another lifetime. If the dreams have stopped, it could be because they've achieved their purpose and you don't need them anymore. If he does appear again, why not ask him if he's real, if he's from the past or the future. You can't really love a fantasy. Trust that it's right no matter how it turns out, and believe in your own future. Get on and live your life. Maybe your dream lover - or a flesh-and-blood one - will, indeed, arrive.
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